tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post6975177143571791735..comments2024-01-02T04:55:07.853-05:00Comments on Pieces of Me: Gender Differences in Sex Drive: Top 25 Part 1JLKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05396471022931966499noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-81070890235692675072013-10-26T23:24:28.003-04:002013-10-26T23:24:28.003-04:00Superb blog............!
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It had occ...@Leigh - you make a really great point. It had occured to me that it could be generational, but most of the data they use is either more current, or has an older study and a newer study to back it up. <BR/><BR/>However, after reading your comment I went back through the article and looked specifically at the section on masturbation. What I found there was that every single study cited is from the 1970's. <BR/><BR/>That's a problem. My mother could have been part of those studies when she was a teenager - and I guarantee that she and I do not share the same ideas and values about sex, especially not when she was 14 compared to when I was 14. <BR/><BR/>This is making me want to do my own study to look at generational effects. Break up responses by generation to get a preview, then continue to do the study with a couple of successive generations (as many as I could do), to eliminate the confounding variable of age gradually. <BR/><BR/>It surprises me that they didn't address the fact that we know kids are becoming sexually active at earlier and earlier ages. It seems to be a huge question left unanswered - there is something that is affecting both boys and girls and we should know what it is before we start presenting as fact the idea that women have weaker sex drives than men.JLKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05396471022931966499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-84535663425982407012009-03-21T14:48:00.000-04:002009-03-21T14:48:00.000-04:00hmm, i found this study intriguing, but imo lots o...hmm, i found this study intriguing, but imo lots of self-reporting accuracy issues and contradictions to find here. i think they've mostly been covered in the comments section.<BR/><BR/>one thing i wonder about is the effect of religious belief upon the factors they measured. also, i would imagine there is an effect of the "generation" you were raised in, which makes me wonder about the effects of including studies back to the 1960s. maybe they accounted for that in the statistics?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-13874186348395171112009-03-21T10:30:00.000-04:002009-03-21T10:30:00.000-04:00I wonder how sexual abuse might come into play. W...I wonder how sexual abuse might come into play. While it wouldn't explain all the numbers, I think it could manage a significant impact. <BR/><BR/>In my anecdotal experience, women who have been sexually abused often lack any kind of sex positivity, especially when they're young. And depending on the type and level of abuse things can get very ugly indeed. At the very least, I could see how many women who have experienced some sort of sexual trauma suffering an almost, if not actual pathological expression of distaste for sex.<BR/><BR/>And unfortunately, there are all too many women who have suffered sexual trauma.<BR/><BR/>I will think on this some more and probably have more to say later.DuWayne Braytonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04074683871047219790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-29381383211085632292009-03-21T08:28:00.000-04:002009-03-21T08:28:00.000-04:00"I just can't believe that 6 out of 10 women are s...<I>"I just can't believe that 6 out of 10 women are so easy they will do more than make out (even the fact that they will do that is a bit surprising) with someone they just met"</I> and with that, you've revealed another possible wrinkle in interpreting the data. JLK said "59% of women report having gone beyond hugging and kissing"... now here's the question... if the survey in question used that exact terminology, might women tend to define "beyond hugging and kissing" as "beyond making out" and men tend to define it more literally? I mean, if boys spend more time arguing over what constitutes second base, a little rub or fondle and *boom* you're "past kissing and hugging". Now, this is kind of assuming women are more inclined to present themselves as more sexually restrained- but this isn't necessarily a "men are lying" or "women are lying" (or both) issue. <BR/>(I could even see grounds for a couple having different answers to "have we had intercourse?" particularly when it comes to oral sex)Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15356974556397009124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-53515570950841364112009-03-21T00:02:00.000-04:002009-03-21T00:02:00.000-04:00Maybe part of the contradictions/weird results can...Maybe part of the contradictions/weird results can be explained by differing definitions/standards between men and women. Men are socialized to brag about sex and flaunt their experience with no penalty. Our anatomy is also such that satisfaction is quicker and simpler to obtain. As such, as a whole, our threshhold for desire, satisfying sex, and what counts as sex are considerably lower. Women's anatomy and socialization means that more is invested in being sexual for women, except for masturbation (but this may again be socialization at work).Toaster Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10388782618295656406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-62694711522818558822009-03-20T22:43:00.000-04:002009-03-20T22:43:00.000-04:00wow. I really liked this post. Thanks! I might eve...wow. I really liked this post. Thanks! I might even ask you for the references since I find this very interesting.<BR/><BR/>I think you are spot on with the "social stigmata" that might make us "lie" more in the research. You know, answering like we "should". Men overstating their numbers of women and women might be underrating.... or not? I find it interesting that among my closest girl friends it was more common that the girls wanted sex more than their/our boyfriends... Maybe we/they were the odd ones out? But it was very obvious among the 6 of us... (anecdotal I know.)<BR/><BR/>Not to mention the mastrubation. I just can not believe it, but maybe so many women are not comfortable touching themselves and therefore they do not like sex/want sex either? After all, if you are not aware of what you like - is it not going to be less likelihood of enjoying sex? And if you do not enjoy sex, do you not get a lower "sex drive"?<BR/><BR/>I wonder if it is something underlying that men are more easily satisfied with "regular fast sex"* whereas women more often need "something more" and if that does not happen then they kind of are happier without???<BR/><BR/>This would expain some of the "cougars" out there, older women who have figured out what they like and want and therefore go "hunting" for more sex. If you understand what I refer to?<BR/><BR/>(sorry about the long comment)<BR/>*not mean about men but if you think of teenagers and/or first time sex, I think there are more men who are happy about their first time than women.. then again, I might be anecdotal again?!challhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10421219663804628119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-41381509410057586882009-03-20T21:36:00.000-04:002009-03-20T21:36:00.000-04:00>and I still say 47% of the women and 16% of th...>and I still say 47% of the women and 16% of the men are lying about the masturbation<BR/><BR/>not to mention 2 out of 3 of JLK's closest female friends in jr high/hs/college!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-88839357982037361492009-03-20T20:50:00.000-04:002009-03-20T20:50:00.000-04:00But how are men sleeping with an average of 18 wom...But how are men sleeping with an average of 18 women, while women are sleeping with between 4 and 5? <BR/><BR/>I wonder if prostitutes are included? <BR/><BR/>I just can't believe that 6 out of 10 women are so easy they will do more than make out (even the fact that they will do that is a bit surprising) with someone they just met, yet by middle age most women have only managed to have had a handful of sexual partners. It seems like the women are literally conflicted, not just the study.<BR/><BR/>I just reread your post and realized that the authors included studies dating back to 1965 for their meta-analysis, which may explain that contradiction to some extent. In fact that seems like an odd choice on their part for this subject especially...<BR/><BR/>and I still say 47% of the women and 16% of the men are lying about the masturbation;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-22354758868445386662009-03-20T20:36:00.000-04:002009-03-20T20:36:00.000-04:00@CPP - My sentiments exactly. But why lie about it...@CPP - My sentiments exactly. But why lie about it?JLKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05396471022931966499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-3132344214896878162009-03-20T20:34:00.000-04:002009-03-20T20:34:00.000-04:00There is no way that there is a single human being...There is no way that there is a single human being alive who hasn't masturbated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-13403062226982939682009-03-20T13:43:00.000-04:002009-03-20T13:43:00.000-04:00Keep in mind that I'm not making an argument here....Keep in mind that I'm not making an argument here. My interest is not so much in whether there is a difference, but why there might be one. The data in this study though do not even begin to touch on the question of why. <BR/><BR/>I'm glad you guys noticed the contradictions in the data. It concerns me - who's lying and why? I'll accept that 59% of women are hooking up with 80% of the men when they just met. But how are men sleeping with an average of 18 women, while women are sleeping with between 4 and 5? <BR/><BR/>Yes, there are more women than men on this planet. But not THAT many. <BR/><BR/>And the masturbation thing kills me. Of my 3 closest female friends in jr high/hs/college, 2 of them SWORE they had never masturbated, and they said "It's just so gross!"<BR/><BR/>WTF?JLKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05396471022931966499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-51875071289807703152009-03-20T11:52:00.000-04:002009-03-20T11:52:00.000-04:0047% of women report that they have NEVER masturbat...47% of women report that they have NEVER masturbated, compared to 16% of men.<BR/><BR/>This can't be true. It's not possible. Is it???? I thought 100% of people masturbated.<BR/><BR/>For a number of reasons the women seem very conflicted in this survey. All this reservation, and then 59% have gone beyond first base with a near stranger?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-55662808659545357832009-03-20T10:17:00.000-04:002009-03-20T10:17:00.000-04:00A meta-analysis isn't really very useful for t...A meta-analysis isn't really very useful for this- glomping all the data together make a more compelling case that male sex drive > female, but those data don't tell us much about what's going on. <BR/><BR/>In what cultures is the female:male sex drive ratio highest? In which is it lowest? What are the self-reported explainations for sexual preferences? To what degree could some findings be explained by things that have little to do with sex drive <I>per se</I> (e.g. if women are less interested in receiving oral sex, is it due to the *idea* of oral sex being less appealing, or men being more inept/female anatomy making cunninglingus more challenging than fellatio?)<BR/>And, for the love of all that is sexy, won't somebody please run a study in such a fashion where we can tell if there really *are* "some very busy women" out there? I suspect the 8th grade boys are little liars (because, well, I remember 8th grade), but at the same time there is some possibility the numbers are true. <BR/><BR/>Also, of your highlights, the most interesting to me was that men were slightly more eager to have babies. This might well support your notion that a lot of sex drive by evolutionary necessity stemming from reproductive cost:benefit.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15356974556397009124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6719356366303333951.post-10465508206218565462009-03-20T09:38:00.000-04:002009-03-20T09:38:00.000-04:00"I think that's why there are so many who don't ma..."I think that's why there are so many who don't masturbate (or don't admit to it)"<BR/><BR/>I would say that SOME of this would result from people not reporting their numbers correctly. Even on a survey where they know data is confidential, I'm sure many women are probably too ashamed to admit that they masturbate. Or that they would like more than 2 sexual partners in their lifetime. We are very socialized to believe, not only that sex is something we do for men, but that we shouldn't WANT to have sex, that we shouldn't WANT to be promiscuous, and I bet that will comes through in the data. <BR/><BR/>It's not just the implication that sex is something we should do for men, it's the implication going along with it that we shouldn't want it for any other reason.scicurioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13266347710629871510noreply@blogger.com